Should empty nest couples feel guilty about actively forcing their adult , unemployed, and unambitious adult children out of the nest?
There comes a time in every couple's lives when they wil be faced with the difficult task of evicting their adult, unemployed and seemingly unambitious children from the safety and security of the familial residence. Many of these aged parents feel pangs of guilt and remorse when they notice their adult children clinging desperately to the warmth and safety of their parent's abode. The hard economic times, divorce,unemployment or bankruptcy have forced their children back into the nest. But many retired parents are realizing that their once plentiful nest egg finances can only go so far. They suffer in silence and do not even discuss the situation with the offending offspring who may or may not be aware of their parent's concern.
Opinion by NMCB3299, Posted on 7/31/2010
Yes parents should kick out their adult children eventually. It creates self reliance in the case of the children.
Opinion by noravandoninck, Posted on 7/31/2010
no, they should not feel guilty. Kids have to make it on their own
Opinion by evlburn23, Posted on 7/30/2010
There is a big difference between between being supportive of your adult children when they are in need and enabling the children or allowing yourself to be used. You must find the right balance for you and stick to it.
Opinion by garichards007, Posted on 7/30/2010
Kids today are very lazy, and have the attitude that the world owes them something. It must be the computer age, because back when I grew up on a dairy farm, I worked every day and never got paid except for a roof over my head and 3 meals a day.
Opinion by gbellamy, Posted on 7/30/2010
No, as long as you continue to sponsor these layabouts, they will continue to sponge from you. They will soon grow up when they are on their own.
Opinion by amoran1229, Posted on 7/30/2010
No parents should not feel guilty for kicking their children out. I am 31 years old and have been on my own since I was 17. I did move back in with my parents by the time I was 20 but only for 3 months. It is inevitable that most adult children will come back at least once. Even with the hard times now adult children should be able to make there way in the world. It's one thing to move back for a few months, no matter the age, but quite another story when it is with no end in sight. Even now with things the way they are they should be able to figure something out. I am now married with four children and my husband nor I have been able to find a job since being laid off in mid 2008. We are still living on our own and making our way. No one should feel guilty for making their children provide for themselves.
Opinion by Rika_Kandiah, Posted on 7/30/2010
wow that is lame. i got kicked out/left when i turned 18. who would want to live with their parents when they have the option to leave?
Opinion by rhodahaddock, Posted on 7/30/2010
I completely understand this. One of my children is currently living with me and it has been a strain for several reasons.
Opinion by strudlez, Posted on 7/30/2010
No they should not feel quilty. It is helping to create self-sufficiency.
Opinion by garyrbeck1@yahoo.com, Posted on 7/30/2010
absolutdely not. get them out being adults and stop living off the parents. they have to stand up an be proud. millions do it.
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