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Call united way 211 ! tell them what your circumstances are and ask - Call united way 211 ! tell them what your circumstances are and ask them for help! I have done so before and I have told many other people about their service and they have tons of resources!!! I must add that I trully admire your compassion and inner strength! Call Medicare! they offer many services for the elderly. Call AARP and social security! Write me a note if you need more help!

I have to stay home and care for my husband - I have to stay home and care for my husband. I can not even afford to get a part time job away from him. SO FAR I have found no help in this matter. I am in Texas, which offers little help to individuals anyway.If you are from elsewhere, contact your local PHS office and check. Many states do offer compensation for those who are prevented from working due to caring for a sick or elderly family member. It would be the equivalent of being paid as a caregiver to your aunt. Good luck and hope you can find some relief!

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I know when my children were young, I would always check in on them - I know when my children were young, I would always check in on them. I was constantly worried about them. Have you spoken to your husband about your concerns? Please don't take this the wrong way, I'm not here to offend you. But my advice is to maybe speak to your doctor about your concerns and worries. The stress must be difficult to deal with. Perhaps they could come up with suggestions to maybe help ease your worries somehow if that's something you are open to? You shouldn't have to go through this.

As my husband and I get older, I am starting to have this anxiety that I might wake up one night, or morning, to find my husband has died in bed next to me. When I wake up in the night, I have to listen, or feel him, to make sure he is still breathing. Am I the ONLY person who ever feels this way? I guess it is because my husband has turned 52, and that is the age at which my father died from heart trouble. Please take a moment to give me your heartfelt answer, and also, if you have an extra moment, please rate me by clicking on the stars next to my profile picture. Thank you. I can't wait to see your responses. I shall rate you also, because I read, and rate, each person who takes the time to answer my questions. I hope I am not alone in feeling this anxiety; I am sure I am not alone, but how many of you think of it every time you wake up, like I do?

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I guess I am having a lot of new anxieties to deal with lately, especially in the night. I am only 41 years old, but often find myself being surprised when I wake up that I am still alive. I just have this feeling I am going to die young, like my father did. He was only 52. Do you ever wake up feeling this way? Sometimes it's amusing; sometimes it's scary; sometimes it's gratifying. But it always makes me feel frightened. Does getting older make you feel scared too? Please don't forget to rate me. And I shall do the same as I read each of your replies. Thank you and sweet dreams!

I have read your previous posts as well - I have read your previous posts as well. I personally think you are suffering from a highlevel of anxiety in your life. Perhaps you should consult with your family physician? If you are dealing with a great deal of stress it is possible that this is affecting your dreams and thoughts. Have it checked out ASAP. Take care of yourself.

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I think the best age to be is in late thirties to early forties. If you are younger than that then there is still so much in life that you have to learn. If your older you feel like your life is about over. In the mid age then you know enough to suit you but you are still young enough to enjoy everything ablout life. Know there is that select few that are older and still in shape to enjoy life to its fullest plus they are much wiser.

OMG - I can't believe the responses! : ) Maybe its only me in - OMG - I can't believe the responses! : ) Maybe its only me in life?? On 03/17 - I will be 52 and never, ever in my life felt as good as I do today!! When I hit 50 - I was like whoo whoo. . . I made it! I let everybody know my age and most people guess me for at least 5 years younger! I work at it both physically and mentally. Keep moving, moving, moving! My late teens - mid twenties was a disaster and I'm lucky to be alive . . . starving myself (except for vitamins) to stay 118 pounds at 6'1" for modeling. My thirties - early forties was one abdominal surgery after another from one medical procedure that totally went wrong. And at 48 is when I turned things around. People may say I'm "lucky" and it must be inherited, but not with the "track record" of my family. Where I'm at today - I did myself. Walk 2 miles almost daily (all weather), drink at least 8 glasses/bottled water daily, vitamins daily, more fiber-less sugar, built muscle and a far, far cry from thinking my life is downhill. Its attitude, physical movement, and I have never been in the shape on in now!! : )

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My 92 year old aunt with alzheimers came to live with me about five months ago when it became apparent to me she was not able to care for herself anymore. I'm 52, just lost my job, got divorced after 25 years and both of my parent died in the last year. I'm still stunned by all the changes and losses in my life. I thought this would give people like me who are trying to care for their elderly family a chance to share experiences. It's a hard job to take on, especially when they don't recognize you and have no clue what's going on. Last Monday she went to have dinner with my brother and fell and broke her hip so now I'm living in the hospital day and night with her, trying to keep her from pulling out her ivs and not hit anyone. Sometimes she recognizes me and thanks me for helping her and others she thinks she hasn't seen me in years and we're at her house and I've just come by to steal everything she's got before she dies and she hisses how disappointed she is that I turned out the way I did. Although I know it's only because of her disease I hope her last words to me aren't hateful. I've put my life on hold to care for her and make her last years as pleasant as possible and for those who might be thinking it's because she has money, she doesn't even have enough to bury her when she dies. If you're going through something similar I just want you to know my heart goes out to you and if you feel like talking about it I'm here.

God bless you for taking on more. After what you've been through. - God bless you for taking on more. After what you've been through..your one tough cookie. I'm not currently taking care of someone but know it will be my future in the not too far off future. My parents, who function great now, are in their 70's. God willing, they will have another wonderful 20 years. My brother, I know, won't be there to help me but my sons (who are teens now) adore them & will want to help. So, even though I'm a bit terrified of this, I feel comforted to know that many people love them too & will be there in whatever capacity they can. They say when you get real old you become like little kids again.. Well, my parents made sure I was fed, clean & safe. And I feel that is the very least I can do for them. Stay tough, get support & take some time for yourself. You an only be there for this family member if your in good shape yourself. Keep smilin' & remember the power of prayer..

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Right now, I am watching infomercials showing women who use lotion or some creamer to rejuvenate their skin. I was surprised to see women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s looking like they are 20 to 30 years younger. Man, hey, there might be some products for men who want to look younger than they do. I will probably use some when I get older. I mean, when I am older, I do not want to always look my age. I want to look and feel younger, healthier, and more energetic. I do not want to end up as some old fart. You know what I mean.

I am 62 and I don't like the way I look - I am 62 and I don't like the way I look. I would get plastic surgery if I could afford it.

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I do not think that anyone would pretend to have dementia, but then - I do not think that anyone would pretend to have dementia, but then again, I don't personally know your father. My great grandmother died in 2007 at 90 years old, and she had dementia and alzheimer's. Although hers was not as severe as your father's, people can still remember things with dementia. If you truly have concerns if the disease progressions are legitimate, why not have your father assessed by a doctor? If you do not like the doctor he has now, take him to a different one and express your concerns. The doctor can help you understand the disease and figure out if your father is faking.

Could it be his short term memory is bad - Could it be his short term memory is bad. A lot of older people can remember what happened years and years ago but cant remember what they did the day before. Is there someone with him that can control his constant eating. Has he been to a Dr. I doubt he is faking it. Who would willing wear a diaper 24-7 and be confined to a wheel chair. My dad is 80 and he cant see or hear well. His balance is off and he sleeps all the time. I sure know he isnt faking it. Go to the Dr with your dad and tell him or her any concern that you have. Good luck.

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When I look in the mirror I see a very old person, not the one's age - When I look in the mirror I see a very old person, not the one's age I feel inside. I see the effects of smoking and wish I had stopped when I was young. I see a person that is still alive and greatful for what I have.

I see my Mom. I am slowly and surely turning into her. It always startles me alittle when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. In my head, I look like I did when I was 30.

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What is a kind way of telling my mom to stop treating me like I am 10 years old? I am 42 and she seems to forget this. She wants to know personal details about my husband's finances, and I don't want to tell her; I have larned over the years, the less she knows, the less she stresses. She worries about everything! I am an only child, and her husband, my father, has been dead a long time. She lives alone, no boyfriend. But the way she is treating me lately is causing us to have problems. She is disputatious of everything I say, arguing against me on almost every topic. The dr. told me she has beginning stages of alzheimer's and this can make one argumentative, forgetful, and confused, like she is. So how do I tell her to quit treating me like I'm 10 years old? Without hurting her feelings? How do I tell her she doesn't need to know every little detail of my married life.

It sounds like she kind of needs this in her life to feel important - It sounds like she kind of needs this in her life to feel important. My grandmother does certain things to get my parents angry. She lives about an hour away and my parents make it a point to go see her once a week and talk to her a few times a week on the phone. When she gets them angry they call less and even skip a week from seeing her. It's kind of hard to tell your mother to stop treating you this way now that she is beginning with alzheimers. Just pull back a little bit and try and change the subject when she probes for details. Saying I don't know is helpful too. Good luck!

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My aunt had alzheimers and from what I have heard, at one point, she - My aunt had alzheimers and from what I have heard, at one point, she only wanted to stay around places that were familiar with her. That made it hard when she wanted to go home earlier than others in her family. She was a dear, sweet aunt and I hated having that happen to her. She and my uncle relied so much on each other after being married for so long. They start repeating things and that can sound a little annoying but because they are family you just have to learn to live with it and be happy that they are still with you. There is generally one outcome which is very sad.

First, has the person been checked check by a doctor for possible - First, has the person been checked check by a doctor for possible Alzheimer's to rule out any other possible(a Alzheimer's possible dianois is only given after all other possible problems are ruled out. The final dianois of Alzheimer's only comes after the brain is examined after death. Have somone in the family get the person examined, there are medications if indeed she possibly has the dieasr to slow the progression. Don't be frustrated with her though it is easy to do so. It is much better ro agree if it will not cause harm to her being, Do not get discourage if they can't remember the present things, or force them into the reality of the present. This will frustrate both of you. Go to some of the alzheimer's site and educate yourself and study some of the ideas that are out there in dealing with the diease. Hope some of this helps you.

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Yes. Women age better.

No. Men age better.

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You go to heaven

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